If you want to chat with someone who also has an MPE, would like to be paired with an MPE mentor, need help identifying family, finding a therapist with experience working with people with an MPE or a genetic counselor, or perhaps just want to talk about your story, please reach out to us at 323-TALK-MPE (323-825-5673). Or, REQUEST we reach out to you.

***If you are thinking about suicide or worried about a friend, please call 800-273-8255 for immediate confidential support or dial 911 or 988.***

mental health professionals

Anyone with an MPE should have access to qualified mental health professionals. Visit our licensed mental health directory to find someone with experience working with people with an MPE.

Jodi Kluggman-Rabb and her Parental Identity Discovery training offers guidance for mental health professionals assisting people with MPEs.

Understanding your DNA ReSULTS

Trying to interpret your DNA results and matches can be confusing. On Ancestry, the site will list your DNA match’s name and the predicted relationship along with the amount of shared DNA. Make sure you understand centimorgans (cM): a unit to measure genetic linkage between people. For example, a parent and child share about 3700 cMs while a grandparent, half-sibling, aunt/uncle all share approx. 1750 cMs. The amount of cMs for each relationship isn’t exact, it’s a range – for half-siblings you can share anywhere from 1160-2436 cMs. Take our class on understanding your Ancestry.com results

Try DNA Painter’s shared cM tool to help you figure out how you are related to someone. Use the “shared CM tool” to enter in total cMs you share with someone (or the “% of shared DNA” which is what 23 and ME shows) and it will tell you the likely relationship you share.

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DNAngels can help you find your genetic mother or father for free. Reach out to them via Facebook. 

Dawn Kosmakos had an NPE in 2012 and four years later she successfully identified and reunited with her genetic father.  She’s passionate about helping others find their genetic family.

MPE INFORMATION

Severance is a magazine and community for people who’ve been separated from biological family. Check out their Resources tab, Severance Magazine is a great place to read about MPE issues.

  • It’s for anyone who’s fallen out of the family tree and made a hard landing, who’s learned they’re not quite who they thought they were.
  • It’s for conversations about what it feels like to have no genetic connection to the families we grew up with.
  • It’s about adjusting to shifting realities or living with the unknown.
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The Donor-Conceived Community offers Peer-led support groups for people navigating donor conception. Groups include: The DC Journey, New Discovery, Multiracial BIPOC DCP, LGBTQIA + DCP, Search & Connect, Advocacy, DC 101, Book Clubs and more.

Donor Deceived tracks cases of broad-based fertility fraud: doctor donor fraud, donor ID fraud, donor medical/background fraud, donor permission fraud as well as large donor sibling groups, and lack of access to donor records.

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The U.S. Donor Conceived Council strives to increase awareness of the needs, interests, and challenges of donor-conceived people and advance change that promotes and protects their health, welfare, and human rights.

We Are Donor Conceived was launched in 2016 as a resource center for people conceived through assisted reproduction around the globe. It’s also a place to share your story to inspire a greater understanding about the unique challenges people conceived through assisted reproduction experience. 

Order the We Are Donor Conceived Magazine

NAAP

NAAP is diverse group of thought leaders from around the globe working to unify the adoption community through education, collaboration, and advocacy. NAAP serves as an educational resource, assists with finding adoption competent therapists, and lends a hand in searches, first contact, and reunion. 

This NPE Guide offers helpful tips to assist people with their not-parent expected event. Stop!  Be kind to yourself by allowing sufficient time to absorb the information and craft sensible responses. Believe your DNA test’s results. Find support. Prior to any actions, reflect on your short-term and long-term objectives, risks and benefits of the action and form a plan. 

Hiraeth sponsors retreats reserved for only Adoptees, DCPs, LDAs, and NPEs; no spouses or family members may attend any of the sessions in different cities throughout the US. Spouses, partners, and/or significant others are invited to join everyone for dinner(s), as additional healing can take place, when all are together. 

FaceBook Support GROUPS

Not all FB groups are open to everyone. For many, you must answer questions to be admitted in order to protect confidentiality. Click on the “about” section of a group to learn how to become a member.

Facebook can be a good place to learn about other MPEs and see that you are not alone. These groups are a great space for getting advice from others who’ve had similar experiences with rejection, dealing with mothers, fathers who raised you, new bio family, sibling confusion, exploring your new heritage, how to reach out, etc; however these spaces can be raw and may trigger strong emotional responses. Facebook groups are not a substitute for professional mental health help. There are many groups out there, try them out and find the one that suits you best. We list groups that promote inclusion, collaboration, and cooperation in supporting the MPE community. Let us know if we’ve missed a group.